Posted by kalyb on June 30, 2003, at 15:36:46
In reply to That's the spirit » Penny, posted by whiterabbit on June 30, 2003, at 12:04:00
> I guess this is a sensitive subject with me - that accounts for my strong reaction. I've been trying to encourage Kaly as well to not let her roommate take such liberties. I can't relate to people like that - why they feel the need to criticize, complain and control others - people they're supposed to care about.
t> Since then I've learned that it's not necessary to overcome this type of agressive behavior with a loud and bullying nature of your own. You simply do not accept this treatment, not from anyone. You walk away from it - literally if possible, emotionally if not.
Yes, Gracie - you have been most helpful and encouraging in my situation. Thanks :)
However I am learning that walking away "emotionally" from bullies like this does have its repercussions which are incredibly hard to withstand.
Really manipulative controlling people will try harder to "reach" you and because they like to manipulate, they'll have taken notice of all your sensitive buttons (or deliberately dig until they find more).
Because they are manipulative and devious they also judge you by their own standards, and will imply your deliberate intention in the most innocent of mistakes.
They will also play the martyr to your every little error despite your apologies and offers to make amends (and maybe relay their own version of events to third, fourth or fifth parties, painting you as black as they can).
I am beginning to see the evil little ways of my landlady, and I don't like them one bit. She's really hitting below the belt now she can see me shrugging off the little stuff, in an effort to keep me where she wants me. And it hurts.
kalyb xx
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