Posted by fallsfall on June 29, 2003, at 11:03:33
In reply to fallsfall, posted by kara lynne on June 29, 2003, at 0:17:54
Hi Kara Lynne,
I described my search process in http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20030529/msgs/231469.html.
The only way I got it done was that my pain level with my current therapist was so high that I HAD to do it. The alternative was going into the hospital, and it would be really hard to find a therapist the way I wanted to from there. Since I was with my old one 8 1/2 years, I figured that I would need someone for the long haul (forever therapy, as Dinah and I say) - and so they had best be good. It was also easier because I had confidence that EVERY therapist I would interview would be a good therapist - maybe not the perfect therapist for me - but a good therapist. This was because of how I got the names. I guess that gave me some trust that I could sit with them for 50 minutes and not be hurt - and maybe be helped (all but 1 were quite helpful. The 1 was not hurtful, but not helpful either).
The first call was terrifying. I was calling a former group therapist of mine who I had seen 4 months before. I was still terrified to talk to her. I had a list of questions (there are sample lists on the internet) and I read them. The nice thing is that these people are therapists - they are going go understand that you are in shambles - that's why you called them. They could show that they are a good therapist for you by putting you at ease and answering your questions. They are the ones being tested - not you.
Good luck. This is SO hard.
poster:fallsfall
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