Posted by beardedlady on March 25, 2003, at 8:25:50
In reply to need support for grief, posted by babs on March 25, 2003, at 7:12:18
You are going through what is my second biggest fear. My heart goes out to you.
Babs, you're doing absolutely everything you need to be doing at this time; journaling, meditation, therapy, sleep, food--everything you are doing is right.
And you are responding to this pain as many people respond to it--lashing out at others close to you, breaking down, being afraid.
I have been down the grief road with close relatives. All I can add to what you're doing are two things: first, please talk to your boyfriend and tell him what you just told us. More than likely, if your relationship is good for five years, he already knows. And second, please forgive and be patient with yourself. Everything you describe is a natural reaction to the loss of a loved one.
It is said that grief diminishes by half. Next year at this time, you'll have half this amount of grief. The following year, you'll have half of next year's grief, etc. So it never goes away, but it becomes bearable.
I know that's not anything to look forward to, but that's the way it has worked for me.
Keep doing what you're doing to make life better, and forgive yourself your pain.
(((((Babs)))))
beardy
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