Posted by Robin.d.j on September 3, 2002, at 17:40:42
In reply to Re: when to let go - and how??? » mscrane, posted by Medusa on September 2, 2002, at 6:57:16
> > "The Art of Happiness" by the Dali Lama
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> Okay, I'll check the library ... I'm suspicious of religious stuff, but ...
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> >Do not compromise your own morals...
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> Ach, see, I already have, by having any dealings with these people at all, with trying to appease them, with caring what they think.
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> > Do you live your lives in search of praise
> > from your families, or because you want to be
> > good people?
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> We've both longed for praise from our families, and had some pretty harsh wake-up calls that we're not going to get it, ever. So we're starting on a new path - just for us. Scary ... but right.
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> > her ignorance is apparent to everyone,
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> Ha. She's surrounded herself by persons who worship her, who think she's fabulously beautiful and spiritual and blah blah blah.
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> >Can you not feel sorry for them
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> Good point, and I do, and their lives ARE empty ... but I sure feel sorry for mySELF when they go on the war path. DH and I did Xmas on our own since we've been married, and we've both had the best times. This year, I don't know what will happen - normally the parents organise a gift exchange between the kids ("kids" are 30-40!) and I just don't wanna have any part of that this year.
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> > They don't have the right to judge you until >they take a good look at their own lives!!!!!
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> Great mantra, think I'll put it on a t-shirt ...
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> thanks for your input. I'm naturally a bit skeptical of any ideas for improvement, as I don't trust these people for one second, and I feel like "be the bigger person" attempts would just get me screwed royally.
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> Anyway. I'm freaking in a weird space, this a.m. I remembered it's my 2nd anniversary and I'm not too happy about that, fortunately DH forgot it too and said it's okay if we don't do anything special.
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> Thanks again for letting me scream.
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> M
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> Hope your next anniversary is a pleaseant one ..I only wish I had one ..agood one anyways ..I have lots of bad ones I can't forgetGood luck Robin
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