Posted by mscrane on September 1, 2002, at 8:07:53
In reply to when to let go - and how???, posted by Medusa on September 1, 2002, at 4:56:22
My advice would be to read "The Art of Happiness" by the Dali Lama...I truely believe in the idea that what goes around, comes around. Do not compromise your own morals...do what you feel is right...if you don't recieve it in return that you can see, remember that you will eventually, in a different way. You can sleep with yourself at night knowing you are doing the right thing because you KNOW it's right, not because you expect the rest of population to be enlightened. Give as you see right to give, not to fufil someone else's greedy expectations.
You can't change the world...but you can be happy knowing that you are being true to yourself. Do you live your lives in search of praise from your families, or because you want to be good people? You are giving these people too much power...let them think what they want because no matter what you do, you won't change them.
I too, hate "mandatory" gift-giving.....give as you see fit...give because you are welcoming a new life, but don't give because this woman will check the price tag...let her say what she wants, her ignorance is apparent to everyone, I'm sure.
Resentment can tear you apart..but no need for it if you know you are doing what is true to yourself. Give these people back thier garbage, because in reality you are doing nothing wrong. If they chose to live thier lives judging others, and being bitter, let them! Can you not feel sorry for them, as thier lives can only be very empty if they have to constantly judge others??? Usually when people critize others' lives, it's because theirs are so empty.
Be true to yourself, do what is right and just, harm no living thing....you will be happy and you won't let these others destroy that feeling. They don't have the right to judge you until they take a good look at their own lives!!!!!
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