Posted by Medusa on September 2, 2002, at 6:57:16
In reply to Re: when to let go - and how???, posted by mscrane on September 1, 2002, at 8:07:53
> "The Art of Happiness" by the Dali Lama
Okay, I'll check the library ... I'm suspicious of religious stuff, but ...
>Do not compromise your own morals...Ach, see, I already have, by having any dealings with these people at all, with trying to appease them, with caring what they think.
> Do you live your lives in search of praise
> from your families, or because you want to be
> good people?We've both longed for praise from our families, and had some pretty harsh wake-up calls that we're not going to get it, ever. So we're starting on a new path - just for us. Scary ... but right.
> her ignorance is apparent to everyone,Ha. She's surrounded herself by persons who worship her, who think she's fabulously beautiful and spiritual and blah blah blah.
>Can you not feel sorry for themGood point, and I do, and their lives ARE empty ... but I sure feel sorry for mySELF when they go on the war path. DH and I did Xmas on our own since we've been married, and we've both had the best times. This year, I don't know what will happen - normally the parents organise a gift exchange between the kids ("kids" are 30-40!) and I just don't wanna have any part of that this year.
> They don't have the right to judge you until >they take a good look at their own lives!!!!!
Great mantra, think I'll put it on a t-shirt ...
thanks for your input. I'm naturally a bit skeptical of any ideas for improvement, as I don't trust these people for one second, and I feel like "be the bigger person" attempts would just get me screwed royally.
Anyway. I'm freaking in a weird space, this a.m. I remembered it's my 2nd anniversary and I'm not too happy about that, fortunately DH forgot it too and said it's okay if we don't do anything special.
Thanks again for letting me scream.
M
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