Posted by Zo on March 4, 2002, at 19:23:36
In reply to Haven't been posting. Addictive relatonship, posted by Phil on March 3, 2002, at 18:18:43
Well, I've popped off in relationships, particularly one man who loved me and whom I loved. . .so the rage that surfaced was intense, and I think the thing to do is *observe* it and learn what it is trying to tell you. I "decoded" so much more about my childhood, and it is this work that allows me to become a less hurtful person overall. . .Not "trying" to be less hurtful, but minding what's going on, and knowing that intimate relationships are going to trigger one's deepest, darkest shit--if shit there be.
AND, I gotta tell you, I popped off and was a hell of alot more cruel and detached from it when my mood disorder was unmedicated. My poisonous little zaps of email were really not apparent, to me. Depression or mood disorder--any of the illnesses we deal with--interfere terribly with the self-feedback loop.
Zo, who *has* said and done bad things!
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