Posted by Katey on January 13, 2002, at 13:49:42
In reply to Re: Katey, a question, posted by Mair on January 11, 2002, at 22:26:15
> Katey
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> > "i think that the 'unprofessional' details about home life and such help to build rapport and trust."
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> I don't entirely disagree with you. My therapist doesn't reveal alot, but she's not one of those people who's reticent to reveal anything. Last summer I found out quite a bit of very personal stuff about her. I was pretty uncomfortable about it until I finally got up the courage to talk to her about what I knew. The discussions we had actually helped build a better rapport.
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at the same time, ive had this experience be very uncomfortable because my gp's wife is my moms best friend. which makes things a bit awkward at times.
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> "i generally don't mind the solitude of the depression until the insecurities and anxieties set in and then i feel like no one wants to even be near me."
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> It's funny how depression plays around with us. When I'm basically ok, my husband can seem distant and I recognize that he's just preoccupied with work or absorbed in a television program. When my depression is more acute I'm convinced he's sitting there thinking to himself something like " I can't believe I'm stuck in this marriage with this depressed woman." It's awfully difficult for me to see that as distorted thinking because at that moment i really believe whatever I'm thinking. In my mind, I and my depression are a pox on my family. In reality I don't think they're anywhere near as aware of my depression as I think they are.
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> Do your anxieties and insecurities mostly tend to revolve around your parents or friends or school or your future or all of the above?
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a lot of my anxieties revolve around the future, my friends, and the concept that i'm going to end up dying alone and cold in my own miserable little bed- keep in mind that im 16. i also have what i call 'irrational fear anxieties' which are things that im terrified are going to happen to me, but the odds are relatively microscopic.
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> " its nice talking to people who go trough the same things i do. "
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> That's definitely the best thing about this board. What's even better is that because we've all thought and felt some of the same things, you can describe a thought or feeling here without worrying too much that you're going to be misunderstood. We seem to speak a common language which isn't necessarily universal. And of course you don't have to do it face to face which for me is key.
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the anonymaty of the board, especially since it isnt face to face is a godsend to me. i also have a brilliant ability to mispronounce, jumble, confuse, or forget words mid sentence. and i love the understanding amongst everyone here about whats supportive and what isnt. ive never seen anyone on this board say something to the effect of 'buck up and take it like a man, theres nothing wrong with you'.Katey
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