Posted by Simcha on November 29, 2001, at 7:35:33
In reply to she almost killed me » sar, posted by adamie on November 28, 2001, at 14:02:49
adamie,
What you have written disturbs me. I have hung around quite a few love addicts in my life. I've been to many SLAA meetings myself (Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous). I tend to be more of a sex addict than a love addict even though therapists have told me that they are opposite sides of the same coin.
Anyway, I believe that the only thing that has helped me in this regard is to work on my own self-esteem. I realize that I am enough. My happiness does not depend on another being. I can be happy with myself. This has taken over 10 years of therapy, 6+ years of 12-step meetings, prayer, and almost a year on meds to get to this point. It has not been a quick and easy process.
I can relate to what you have written. I have been there. I think it is important that you realize that you are special, unique, and quite worthwhile all on your own.
I have benefited from following your story here in these threads. I'm glad that you walk this earth. You have helped me more that you know just by participating in this room.
Before I learned to love myself I had to rely on others to tell me that I am loveable. It's taken 10+ years to learn to love myself at this stage. I'm sure there is more growth to come for me.
Take Care,
Simcha>she can save my life. without her i am nothing :*****. how can she be so selfish. my life is at stake and she treats me this way. everything was supossed to be perfect. how dare she care more about him than me. the man who once made her suicidal. the man who treated her like shit for 1 year. she cant be brave enough to leave? then she should find a damn way. crying all day and feeling beyong horrific, the illness's mind torture and this all adding up caused me to almost have an attempt. i have no life except her. it's impossible for me to ever meet anyone like her ever. i cant stress enough how perfect we are for eachother. she agrees but she has her stupid reason. i would never insult her but i have been so close to being dead. there isn't much for me left. how could she do this to me expecially knowing my condition. just hope she will be back soon. maybe my life will be important enou=gn for her. or maybe she can just come once for vacation so i can at least die in her arms :*********.
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