Posted by Rach on June 30, 2001, at 22:20:09
In reply to Why do I seemto be so messed up?, posted by Dubya on June 29, 2001, at 23:46:30
Hi,
I'm also 20 and single, and often I don't have anything to do on a Fri night. Try not to let that be something that worries you. As far as having a girlfriend is concerned, it won't happen until you start to sort out your problems. Take lots of time to try to sort yourself out, whether it be at therapy or whatever. The other guys had some great suggestions.
You are not a loser, and you can never be anyone but yourself. So learn to deal with being you. It sounds as though the people who avoid you have the major problem, not you. Unfortunately, though, their behaviour has lead to you feeling inadequate. Try to separate other's behaviour from how you feel. If they don't like you, it's their own problem & they're the one losing out.
Good luck to you,
Rachael> People tell me I try too hard. (I don't quite follow what they mean when they say this). I am like the only one (I am 20) that is single and alone w/nothing to do on a Fri night. I have no idea how to have a girlfriend or even invite a girl out to coffee, etc. I have everything one can wish to have (material goods) yet I am MESSED up like this. I know money can't bring happiness, however, the more I use the material goods (i.e. car) the more worthless I feel. Sometimes I wish someone would just kill me or give me a big slap across the face. Sometimes I think the world would be better off without me. Sometimes I think about how unimportant I am to this world. Sometimes I feel like a big loser. Sometimes I just wish I was someone else but me. Sometimes I wonder why my life feel so painful. Something about ME makes me suck like this. I always wonder why people avoid me and not even tell me why, I wonder if it is something I did to wrong them. This makes it even more difficult for me to distinguish btwn right/wrong. I am a peanut brain, I hope nobody has to go through what I am/have gone through.
> I really appreciate the attention you put in by reading this.
poster:Rach
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