Posted by kazoo on June 30, 2001, at 1:50:49
In reply to Why do I seemto be so messed up?, posted by Dubya on June 29, 2001, at 23:46:30
> People tell me I try too hard. (I don't quite follow what they mean when they say this). I am like the only one (I am 20) that is single and alone w/nothing to do on a Fri night. I have no idea how to have a girlfriend or even invite a girl out to coffee, etc. I have everything one can wish to have (material goods) yet I am MESSED up like this. I know money can't bring happiness, however, the more I use the material goods (i.e. car) the more worthless I feel. Sometimes I wish someone would just kill me or give me a big slap across the face. Sometimes I think the world would be better off without me. Sometimes I think about how unimportant I am to this world. Sometimes I feel like a big loser. Sometimes I just wish I was someone else but me. Sometimes I wonder why my life feel so painful. Something about ME makes me suck like this. I always wonder why people avoid me and not even tell me why, I wonder if it is something I did to wrong them. This makes it even more difficult for me to distinguish btwn right/wrong. I am a peanut brain, I hope nobody has to go through what I am/have gone through.
> I really appreciate the attention you put in by reading this.^^^^^^^^^^^^
Get off the pity pot and look at what you have done so far in life, no matter how small or insignificant you may think those things are, and try to do something for some else. It's called "altrusim." Knowing that you've helped someone outside your realm of self-pity will instill a self-satisfaction that's ineffable, and will remain with you and become part of your character. This will help you. It helps me.As far a finding a girlfriend goes, I refer to a song by Crosby, Stills, Nash and Young: "If you can't be with the one you love, then love the one you're with."
Also, my own saying: "It's better to be alone, than wishing that you were."
You're stronger than you think, my friend. I have full confidence in you to see your way out of this bad spell you're currently under by your own hand. Don't sell yourself short, because this life is too short to be wallowing in a personal holocaust.
Read this message again.
(a fatherly)kazoo
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