Posted by Glenn Fagelson on June 7, 2001, at 23:38:06
In reply to To Glenn re: love, posted by JennyR on June 7, 2001, at 18:43:00
> A good book about love is "The Psychology of Romantic Love" by Nathaniel Branden.
> I read it when searching for answers to the same questions you pose, but from a different perspective - from that of being married for many years to someone who hasn't felt like a good match for me for many years, but I don't want to break up a family. I think even when you think you know it's the right person, and your heart is doing cartwheels, we don't see our blind spots. We don't see that we might be picking this person for the wrong reasons, unconscious reasons.
> I think your head and your heart have to agree, but that's still no guarantee you won't grow apart. Anyway, that book is good. He also wrote one called the Romantic Love Question and Answer Book which was very good.Thank you, Jenny for your response!! It
sounds true to me that if 2 people are
frantically, romantically in love, there
is that greater risk of their being blind
spots within that relationship. So, does
romantic love have any healthy aspects to
it?? Or do you think romantic love will lead
2 people off a cliff?
Thank you also for the books that you
recommended; I will see first if I can
check them out of the library. It sounds,
Jenny, like you were very, very
romantically in love with your husband,
at one time. And then when the passion died
down, you saw some things that you had not
seen before. Please forgive me if I am
getting too personal here.
Thanks again for the post!
Glennlike
poster:Glenn Fagelson
thread:6273
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/social/20010526/msgs/6339.html