Posted by ShelliR on April 7, 2001, at 21:05:27
In reply to Re: Another Dissociative Here-- kind of long, posted by cole on April 7, 2001, at 1:54:24
Hi Cole. While you say you didn't have an abusive childhood, you seem to have picked up low self esteem somewhere along the way. Dissociation is a defense mechanism, and the examples you give:< I will get this feeling that I really screwed up, or someone hurts my feelings, and I get into this haze where I tend to say the same thing over and over in my head (or out loud if I'm alone), and I often end up injuring my self and then I feel "normal" again.
show that self-injury produces a calming effect from being hurt. I think there's sometime in your life that you had to learn how to protect your feelings (and I do believe you that abuse was not part of your family life.) Part of dissociation is a propenity toward it (not all abused children develop it), but I would also guess that someone didn't take good enough care of your emotional needs. Perhaps, like your sister, you did have terrors, but because you weren't acting them out, no one paid attention. Just a thought. shelli
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