Posted by Dinah on October 13, 2010, at 13:53:44
In reply to I am so sad in my marriage what to do, posted by DAAIM on September 11, 2010, at 2:57:26
If I understand correctly, your husband isn't abusive in any way, but he isn't expressing love to you in a way that you can feel it? Did he ever? It doesn't necessarily have a thing to do with you and his feelings for you.
It could be he's depressed. It could be that he's just not very demonstrative. Any number of things could be.
He says he loves you. He says he doesn't want a divorce. He expresses the intent of changing how he behaves, but he doesn't follow through. Maybe he really wants to but can't?
Is he home when he's supposed to be? Is he a good father? Other than his communication of feelings and your infrequent intercourse, is he a responsible husband and father?
Is it possible to go to couples therapy? It may be that the two of you are in a destructive loop. Or it could be that he, or you, is depressed and need treatment. A good couples counselor could help you figure those things out.
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