Posted by sassyfrancesca on April 8, 2008, at 8:52:29
In reply to Hi, I'm new here...and confused about my therapist, posted by stellabystarlight on April 6, 2008, at 18:56:22
I totally relate. I have been in love with my t for 5 years. I could write a book at what has gone on between us. I finally (after a year) told him of my feelings for him.
I am divorced (he is married; sez he is "in love with his wife), but what I know is that his behavior does not reflect his words.
He said: "If i were not married, i would probably go for it." We have had long, deep discussions about our feelings for each other. He says "as long as we talk about it, it isn't dangerous." Oh, yes it is!
I don't like the word "transference" to me it is the Freudian/technical term for feelings for people in the past, etc.
My t doesn't remind me of ANYone else. I would have fallen in love with him, had I met him anywhere else.
We are alike in 31 different ways; it is amazing. He knows...and I know.....our attraction is on "kill"...he said: "We are both very restrained people, and will have to keep on being that way."
It is excruciating not to have him. He said once a long time ago: "Isn't it enough that I love you?!"
He has said: "You are in my heart and in my head".>WE find it hard to end the sessions and WE find it hard to say goodbye." He said: "I am torn and confused, scared and conflicted."
He is the most fascinating, amazing man I've ever met in my life,and it is unbearable to be without him.
We just returned from the American Counseling Associaton's Convention In Hawaii....
HE was there alone and I was.......he shocked me by telling me that he was looking for me; he said if he saw me (stupid therapist rule), he wouldn't acknowledge me unless I said hello to him.
He said he saw me FIVE times, but didn't say anything; he thought I looked at him and looked down (he knew I was angry by something he had said previously).....arrrrghhhh
I am a member of a Yahoo group (for therapist/transference, etc., stuff): A Most Heartbreaking Love....it is called.
I read (and concur) that the therapy room is the only place we call LOVE by another name (transference).....I don't have transference.....I am in love with a man who has revealed himself personally to me....he knows....and I know......we are soulmates (hate that word, but it is true)...I could ramble for hours here, but will stop.
Hugs, Sassy
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