Posted by muffled on April 23, 2007, at 14:44:56
In reply to Re: Question re:sex and honesty, posted by one woman cine on April 23, 2007, at 14:22:32
> Aw muffled, you should be honest - sex is not good for some people for different reasons, prior abuse, physical issues etc. - but I do think there are alternative ways to engage in our sexuality, not necessarily having sex.
> Being in touch with our own personal sexuality, whatever that may be & wherever we are with it (comfort wise), is important to expressing who we are.**? I not sure what you mean? I guess you got a good point below. Intimacy. I SO not good at that.
> Physical intimacy is important with our partners & it's a way to communicate in a different way. If you're not comfortable having sex, that's cool - you're not the only one. Liking sex/not liking sex is not a value judgement on you - you are who you - it's just another area to explore and develop.**WHY is physical intimacy important with our partners?
I know my man wants sex. But I would make him feel bad it I said I didn't like it I would think.
Really, if I can just learn to tolerate it w/o the fear etc, it would be OK. I also seem to suffer dissoc for even days afterwards which is really lousy.
I want to make my man happy. But I don't want it to be a LIE.
Mebbe schedual it for a certain time, just tolerate it, anticipate that I may not be there the next coupla days, and then its done until the next time.
And it won't work just blowing or hand jobs or whatever, cuz its the whole thing, all of it, that distresses me.
I feel like I ripped off my hubby and I feel real bad bout it.
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