Posted by Dinah on April 2, 2007, at 9:42:00
In reply to Re: It's not that I'm ready to terminate » Dinah, posted by All Done on April 1, 2007, at 20:34:18
The topic certainly isn't a comfortable one for me.
My therapist has spent a great part of therapy teaching me that it's ok to get angry and it's ok for him to get angry and that it won't destroy the relationship. I think I have grown to understand that. At least in the little things.
But this isn't a little thing. And I'm positive that bringing this to the table would undermine his trust in me. I know this really isn't typical, but over the years we've both made a commitment to the relationship that isn't at all one sided. It wasn't just his reassuring me that he'd be here for as long as I needed. It was both of us committing to work on the relationship and keep it healthy.
Especially since I'm pretty sure there are good reasons not to terminate, I'm unwilling to undermine the relationship by compromising that commitment.
I know this isn't usual in a therapy relationship, and that some people might not at all approve. But I hope everyone realizes that relationships evolve according to the needs of the relators, even if it isnt' standard textbook.
I think this is something I need to work out on my own before I bring it to him, if I ever do.
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