Posted by fairywings on October 3, 2005, at 23:50:20
In reply to New therapist, posted by Dinah on October 3, 2005, at 16:35:16
OMGosh Dinah,
Just reading this my heart just bleeds for you. How does one person endure so much heartache? I agree, the new T doesn't sound warm and fuzzy. It would be so hard to trust, to open up in normal times, let alone in a time like this, when you need someone so desparately. No, "just pretty enough to be intimidating", doesn't work for therapy. A comfortable man, no matter how young, old, fat, thin, handsome, or ugly, as long as he's comfy, sounds like that's what you need until you can get back to your T. Nothing against female T's, but I'm the same way, something about attachment, I just don't attach to female T's, they're more like an aunt or something.
As for your father in law. I am so dearly sorry for you and for your husband, it has to be heartwrenching for both of you because you love him so much. And I'm sorry for him because he misses his wife. My grandfather went through that when his wife died, I think a lot of older ppl do, they just want to be with their loved one again.
You have all been dealt a hand that is so out of your control, no one could have seen it coming. The rug has truly been pulled out from under you. This hurricane, these hurricanes, have done unspeakable damage to so many lives, and I'm so sorry you have been so overwhelmingly devastated physically and emotionally. And then add to it your T was swept away, your p-doc isn't as available as you need him to be, your illness has been exaserbated, your home is crowded, your jobs are in question.
It's amazing that you are holding together at all. You really are amazing Dinah. I know that you feel that you are falling apart, but from where I sit, you are amazing, and I only wish there were something I could do or say to make a difference.
Just know that I'm thinking of you and that I care.
fw
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