Posted by cricket on August 17, 2005, at 6:51:30
In reply to Re: Terrible Session » cricket, posted by Dinah on August 16, 2005, at 21:05:06
> He sounds more defensive than critical, Cricket. They're human too, and sometimes it shows.
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Yeah, I agree. Criticism might be easier to take than defensiveness though. Criticism you can fight if you think it's wrong or learn from if it's right. But when someone is defensive it's like dealing with a phantom especially in a stupid therapy relationship where I'll never know what nerve I touched.> He's been pretty good about responding to you when you bring things to his attention. He might surprise you if you express hurt at his reaction by being pretty decent about it. Especially if you tell him no criticism was implied.
We'll see. I feel very shut down. My own armor of "no one can hurt me. No one matters that much to me" is very much in place. He might ask for the little girl though. Then I'm not sure what will happen.
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