Posted by cricket on August 15, 2005, at 14:35:13
In reply to Re: Failure/Inner Child Work, posted by fairywings on August 14, 2005, at 10:06:12
Hi Fairywings,
I haven't been posting much but as someone who does have parts I wanted to respond to you.
And I am talking strictly about me. I think that there is a very broad range of issues and feelings amongst those of us who do have parts.
It is painful to have parts.
Because....
1) I feel so freakish, so alien from the rest of humanity.
2) I am afraid that an inappropriate part will come out at the wrong time.
3) Sometimes the conflict between parts is exhausting and leaves not much energy for anything else.
4) I feel like nothing most of the time. Almost all of my feelings and thoughts can be attributed to a particular part and I have nothing of my own.
On the other hand
It's good to have parts
because...
1) I'm not so lonely. There's always someone to talk to.
2) I can pick the part that has to do certain things. For example, there's one part, and one part only, that talks to my mother. The rest of us don't have to deal with her at all.
3) It keeps my therapist on his toes. It must be a bit like doing family therapy with a very large family and he never knows who is going to show up for any given session.
4) If something is stressing a particular part out, like work, I can just switch to a part that could care less about work.
So it's definitely not all negative.
However, I also agree with Daisy that it doesn't sound like you will just fragment into parts at any point. It sounds like you have a strong sense of fairywings as fairywings.
It sounds like you are ready to do some deeper analytical work with a therapist. I hope you find one that works for you.
I also have to say that I really admire your ability to take the good parts of your ex-therapist and work with them and ignore the rest. That bespeaks a lot of maturity.
poster:cricket
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