Posted by Annierose on July 31, 2005, at 7:09:28
In reply to Re: Talking about Sex (potential trigger) » annierose, posted by daisym on July 30, 2005, at 13:34:30
It is complicated. And no doubt husbands each come complete with their own set of issues, most which never get sorted out. My T does give me helpful hints on how to approach certain topics with my husband, how to say things in a "I want to make this work better for both of us ..."
I am not very good with words, so remembering how to approach subjects is difficult.
I do not feel my husband feels very confident sexually. My issues probably exasperate this feeling, wanting something, then quickly deciding against, confusing him, and myself. It's so messed up.
Therapy has led to some interesting late night conversations between my husband and I. Topics in 14 years of marriage we have never discussed much at great length, or not at all. Surprising how I can be with someone for so long and still find out new things about him ... with sex being the one topic that is gently, but rarely approached. I got to admit, it is I, that more than likely avoids the topic because it usually results in the one thing I'm avoiding.
Really looking forward to my session on Monday to get more of my thoughts out there and begin to sort them out. Thanks for listening and replying. I'm really enjoying having Deborah Lott around the board too.
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