Posted by daisym on July 30, 2005, at 13:34:30
In reply to Re: Talking about Sex (potential trigger) » daisym, posted by annierose on July 30, 2005, at 6:57:08
Sounds like you are really pushing yourself Annie, I admire that. Dad stuff is almost as hard as mom stuff, they seem like creatures from a different planet sometimes.
I'm glad you could talk to your husband and he responded well. When I try to talk to my husband about being depressed in general, it usually ends up the same way, but only because that is the only way he knows how to comfort me. We've talked about our sex life a few times in the past year, which is more than we've done for most of our marriage. It is hard for me and for him. His physical problems are an issue for him and I think sex is tied to mortality and vitality for men. So he needs to sort out some of this for himself.
My therapist keeps telling me that I need to "train him." He says that "we men" need training about how to listen and comfort and be sensitive. I guess I'm not consistent in my training methods. More likely, we are both so immersed in our our angst that we are having a tough time owning each of our part in all of this. Complicated, isn't it?
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