Posted by alexandra_k on July 26, 2005, at 20:00:34
In reply to Re: Poor ego strength, posted by alexandra_k on July 26, 2005, at 19:49:03
> But then... Sometimes one may feel a certain way because of what they believe about something. Sometimes there is other relevant information and so once you put together the other relevant information then that feeling just ceases. I think thats what the 'integration' idea is about. Putting all the pieces together. In the sense of all the beliefs etc coming out in the open or together in a list. A list of what is going on inside you.
Because... Talking about me now... Because what I think happened was that certain thoughts, perceptions, feelings etc had to be hidden because it wasn't safe for my mother to know about them. I wasn't able to acknowledge them to myself but conceal them from her. I just couldn't do that. So what I had to do was to put them out of my mind. Shove them away as hard as I could so that she would never know... And so that is what I did. Those feelings and thoughts that I had. They couldn't be there they just couldn't be and so I refused to acknowledge them. And so that is all very well, but they were STRONG responses. And they didn't just go away. Rather... They kind of lurked around in there and came out as complexes when it was safer.
And so now I have to reclaim them.
And one of the troubles with CBT is that it is about digging out all those FAULTY cognitions. All those FAULTY perceptions and judgements etc. And so there is something shameful about them to start with. And so I just want to push them away all the harder. And I wish to god they would just go away for good.
But it isn't about that....
Its about those complexes not having ALL the relevant information. That is why sometimes their thoughts or emotional responses or whatever are a bit funny. But rather than attacking them and pushing them away one needs to acknowledge them for what they are.
And then. Gently. Very gently see what other relevant information there might be lurking around in the world or in those other complexes.
And that... Can lead to a change in some of those horrible emotional responses / odd perceptions / thoughts about the world...
Just speculating here...
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