Posted by alexandra_k on June 27, 2005, at 19:50:13
In reply to Re: What do I think we should do in therapy sessions » alexandra_k, posted by fallsfall on June 27, 2005, at 13:07:48
Hey.
We have talked about that a bit.
She said she is a bit concerned because she knows I need to be able to keep functioning to do my study etc. And that that makes it hard because I need to talk about hard stuff and that is going to impact on me outside therapy, but that I can't really afford to have it impact on me outside therapy too much and so we have something of a dilemma.I think it is going to take some time to find the balance between doing work and not pushing too hard. I guess that will be something that changes over time too. I've had a bit of experience with that with one of my other t's. We got fairly good at it. Basically, she would push me. Until I told her that I needed her to back off. It can be hard when I think I'm ok - and it is not until I leave that I realise that I'm not. But that is something that I need to get better at doing and I guess I will over time.
Maybe thats what I need to say.
That I'd rather she did push me.
I'd rather that than leave feeling like she didn't want to do any proper work with me :-(
I'd rather she push
And it is up to me to figure it out.
And, I don't know.
Maybe she'll start to have some sort of idea too.
I guess the other one did. Sometimes she would say 'I think we should talk about something else now because even though you seem fine now that is something that is likely to impact on you during the week and you have a bit of stuff to be doing this week...'.
She was usually spot on.I am willing to work.
But when things get hard my defenses do come up.
But I'd rather be there, I'd rather be there and working on stuff
Than going round and round in circles about the general crappiness of my week.Thanks for your response. I think I will talk about this more next time :-)
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