Posted by JenStar on May 15, 2005, at 16:48:47
In reply to Do any of you block your T or ex T out?, posted by pinkeye on May 15, 2005, at 14:02:44
I think it's hard to suddenly stop conversing with ANYONE, esp. someone as important as a T. There are still people from college I think about from time to time, wondering what they're doing, wishing we were still in touch. And these aren't even people with whom I had such a close T-like relationship! There are old guys I've dated, old friends who've disappeared into the mist, and even an old physician on whom I had a huge crush. It's not like I obsess about them, but I think about them sometimes. It's normal for a curious, thoughtful, personable person to feel a bit sad after losing contact with people we liked at one time.
So it's totally understandable that you'd feel loss for a T and maybe block it out b/c it's so painful. I think the only solution is business and time. time to heal & forget, and business to keep your mind occupied so it doesn't go back and dust off the old picture album of "used to be." I also think that the happier we are currently, the less we tend to think and dream about old friend and T's and etc.
But probably you're still feeling the pain of separation for your T. You might have a tough road ahead - acknowledgement of the pain, and then feeling it & working thru it, before you actually forget about your T "for real." (not FORGET, but think less about, I guess.)
I'm sorry this is so painful. You seem like a very insightful person. Do you have any other thoughts or insights about how the time with your ex-T affected you, or how the memories might affect you in the future?
JenStar
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