Posted by pinkeye on April 28, 2005, at 14:29:37
In reply to Re: Wanting to apologize to my ex T » pinkeye, posted by Tamar on April 28, 2005, at 14:12:23
Tamar, I think that strikes a chord. What you have said is possibly true. Maybe that is what I am trying to do - somehow still hang on to him.
And now that you said it, I am thinking it possibly is a phenomenon I had with my dad as well. It may not be true with my ex T, but with my dad, I always assumed more responsibility than I should have taken. That is what my new T keeps saying. That I should let others acknowledge their own mistakes instead of always acting on my behalf and their behalf. I always tried to defend my dad, never letting him down. And to a good extent, I do that with my husband also.. Somehow keep thinking that I should have been able to make a difference. I think it is possible that it is the same transference that I am now projecting on to my ex T.
Thanks for pointing that out. My God, this transference is really a huge issue.. I need to be very careful .. it tries to manipulate me into all different ways of thinking.
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