Posted by gardenergirl on April 23, 2005, at 23:40:19
In reply to Re: My session yesterday » gardenergirl, posted by cricket on April 22, 2005, at 15:39:02
> Hi GG,
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> Since I also had a very bad session with my T last week, I read your post with a lot of interest.I hope that you are able to work things out with your T, too. Bad sessions stink!
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> Don't you hate those waiting room jitters! For me it's every week. Last week I was certain my T wasn't going to be there and on a metaphorical level he certainly wasn't. So a bit of a premonition on my part.Wow, intuition at its best. I don't often have those jitters, but this time it was awful. I really did want to bolt, and I kept looking at the door. But the way it's set up, if he had been coming to get me right when I decided to leave, I probably would have knocked him over! :)
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> You said, "He never really acknowledged saying any of the things I said hurt me. He didn't deny them, but he just never focused on his own behavior--just my reactions."
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> Is this typical of your T? I guess in some ways it's what they're supposed to do, focus on the client and their reactions, but sometimes it just feels like a wily trick on their part. Client feels hurt, okay get out it by making client think it is part of their issues and why they are in therapy. I'm not saying your T was doing this, but I'm wondering what you think.Well, I don't really know if this is typical, because the whole thing is so not typical of my therapy experience. I do know from what I have read on the boards and from what I know about psychodynamic therapy that this happens. I think this is another one of those, "not going to happen to me" moments when I am knocked down and didn't expect it.
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> I don't get "mixing it up." What does he mean by that?He means that we are sort of like fighting. We are facing relationship difficulties and trying to sort out who said/did what and why. And what it means. And I think he thinks this is what needs to happen to keep making progress. Joy.
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> Do you still feel as hurt by him? Do you feel like you will eventually work this out? I am curious because even though it seems like nothing was resolved this week, you seem a bit calmer in your post.I feel a bit better, but I don't feel like it's all worked out. I've been jotting down random thoughts, mostly just bits and pieces of a thought as they occur to bring in next time. There's part of me that does understand what he was saying, but there's a bigger part of me that is saying that just doesn't FEEL right. I mean, he DID say what he said. How could I have made that happen? It's confusing.
I hope your next sessions go well.
Take care,
gg
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