Posted by fallsfall on March 14, 2005, at 20:40:02
In reply to When is Enough Enough?(long, and **Trigger*), posted by antigua on March 14, 2005, at 15:49:27
You want to feel better. You believe that you need to work through the csa before you will feel better. But you feel like you have gone as far as you can go in therapy.
14 years is a long time. You say that you have learned some important things in that time. And that you do trust your therapist. I'm assuming that you have had some important progress, but things seem kind of stuck right now.
Given your motivation, and your certainty that you will experience another depression if you don't "finish" your therapy work, I wonder about your plan to stop.
Have you considered changing therapists? To someone who uses a different theoretical model? I changed from CBT to Psychodynamic and was amazed at how different the therapies were. There are also humanistic, family centered, relationship centered and a bunch of other types. The other thing that changing therapists gave me was that my new therapist had a fresh perspective on things - and that "shaking up" of things was really helpful.
If you decided to change therapists, it would not say anything about the skill of your current therapist - nor about how much she has meant to you. Perhaps you are just at a point where you need something different?
I think it is not true that "no one can help" you. And the hopelessness that I hear in that phrase is heartbreaking to me. Your current therapist has shown that she *can* help you - because she has. But perhaps you have gone as far as you can go *with her*. That doesn't mean that you couldn't benefit from help from someone else.
My former therapist and I kept beating the same dead horse, and didn't get anywhere for a long time. Starting fresh with someone new really made a difference for me.
Best of luck with whatever you decide.
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