Posted by mair on March 14, 2005, at 17:52:55
In reply to Re: When is Enough Enough?(long, and **Trigger*) » mair, posted by antigua on March 14, 2005, at 17:20:37
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> "I really am a cold unfeeling b*tch, aren't I, that I could simply walk away. But I could, I really could."NO NO No, that's not the way I see it at all. I see it as maybe meaning more that your defenses are stronger and that it might hit you a little harder later.
I've told myself for years that I don't care about my T and that I could walk away from her easily. I morph from that thought to telling myself that I must be a cold heartless b*tch, to feel that way. When I think of it as being difficult to end, I think of it more as being tough to abandon the process, not necessarily tough to walk away from her. She tells me that all of this is evidence of my elaborate system of self-protection, and not at all evidence of a lack of caring or feeling. Her's is definitely a more desirable explanation and I suspect, one which applies to you.
Mair
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