Posted by annierose on March 12, 2005, at 17:13:15
In reply to The Phone Call, posted by Skittles on March 12, 2005, at 16:41:08
Skittle -
I'm so sorry for everything! It's not you, it's her. Please try to remember that. I read everything, and she should have handled your call WAY better. Nothing you said was wrong, you were just telling her how you feel, and that is what therapy is all about. Don't take the responsibility away from her.
You deserved another appointment. I think most therapists are use to clients getting frightened, backing away, and it is their job to make you feel comfortable with the conflict, to talk about it with them. That is why I am so puzzled by her reaction, and blaming you.
I wish I knew what to tell you to do. That is your choice and decision. Sit with your feelings. You have a week to decide. I would want to see her again, but not if she was going to blame me.
As a sidenote to sexual discussions with therapists ... I found it very helpful to understand certain feelings I had re: sex to talk about them. But I felt safe in her office. I knew she wasn't there to judge me, but to help. It took courage, and I'm happy I found the strength to get it verbalized.
Thinking about you - wish I had a magic wand -
Annierose
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