Posted by Dinah on March 6, 2005, at 19:46:19
In reply to Re: Hey! My therapist's going out of town! » Dinah, posted by annierose on March 6, 2005, at 8:13:20
Sadly it wasn't. :( I made several tactical errors in the beginning of the session if my goal was to have a bonding session.
I made him self conscious about his technique.
I told him that I was open to more honesty from him (but maybe not today) and I forgot that... Hmmm... I think visually in therapy. Usually he's open and receptive with a solid core. He stays in his seat but makes me feel held emotionally because of the open receptiveness. When I give him permission to challenge me, he moves to a fencer's stance. He's no longer open and receptive and I no longer feel held.
I think if he could figure out how to challenge me gently, with humor, and in a laid back open and receptive posture, I'd be fine with it. But when he leans forward on the balls of his feet feeling alert I lose the feeling of being held and get frantic.
Shouldn't it be possible to challenge someone while also holding them?
Anyway... It became a productive session on my reluctance to be intrusive (IRL anyway). Sigh. And then it was over, and I didn't have a stomachful of good feelings to last me till Friday.
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