Posted by Lonely on August 18, 2004, at 15:02:32
In reply to Re: Coach vs Therapist - Change ?, posted by pegasus on August 18, 2004, at 14:45:54
Thanks for your insights, Pegasus.
I went to a psychologist about 1-1/2 years ago who said she used a socratic approach. I felt overwhelmed - it was a why, why, why approach. I felt hammered at. She was jealous of another therapist I saw and made a real something-else of herself. I was grieving over the impending loss of that other therapist although this louse thought it was pure neurosis, I could tell. Unfortunately, the first therapist did die. And I was left with no back-up. I'm pretty bitter about therapists. The cavalier attitude doesn't get it.
Psychodynamic may not be for me either, then. While I certainly am well aware that past experiences affect the present I know that with the proper support and dynamics it can be better partly because I will figure out some things on my own.
Yes, I can think of things to talk about but I don't really feel all that much better for it. And, it sure isn't taking me anywhere. I've noticed that therapists DO get angry and sabotage patients. The current one just asked me to handle her hassle w/insurance company because they denied payment on 2 visits. The ins. company is completely wrong but she needs to get her bookkeeper/insurance clerk on the trail here, not me. She pays her clerk to do this - she expects me to do it for free.I have most always struggled in talking to therapists - it's like deep down bottom-of-the-barrel what-difference-does-it-make kind of feeling. Something's wrong here and I don't know what to do.
I'm glad you told me that not everyone has my experience but now ... yes, I can set goals but therapy sure doesn't get me to them.
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