Posted by pegasus on August 18, 2004, at 14:45:54
In reply to Re: Coach vs Therapist - Change ?, posted by Lonely on August 18, 2004, at 14:19:50
Hi Lonely,
So, you don't know what you want to talk about, and whatever you do talk about doesn't help. That's a hard place to be. I'm wondering whether you have particular goals for therapy? Maybe you don't have to give your whole history again, if you have some specific things that *you* are going in there to talk through. Or if you have specific goals that you're hoping to achieve, then maybe it'll be easier to see how any of the stuff you do end up talking about might connect to that.
A psychodynamic therapist is going to want to go into your personal history, because part of that theoretical orientation sees the client's personal history as being critical to gaining insight into their current problems. If you are turned off by that, maybe you could look for someone with more of a Cognitive-Behavioral approach? They would tend to focus on the here and now more.
I hope this is helpful. What you are describing is not what everyone experiences in therapy. Speaking for myself only, I always have particular things that I want to talk about, so, my sessions usually feel more productive (if I manage to talk about the things I've chosen). I have some long term goals for therapy, and over the long term, I can see that I'm getting closer to achieving those goals. Maybe not on a session by session basis, but over several weeks or months, things shift for me.
I hope you're able to find a therapist that can work with you in a way that feels helpful to you.
((Lonely))
pegasus
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