Posted by JenStar on July 28, 2004, at 16:46:28
In reply to Boring my T, posted by cubic_me on July 27, 2004, at 16:36:15
cubic_me,
it sounds like you would like to lead a more interesting life. I could be all wrong here, but reading betw. the lines -- it seems that you're concerned not as much with whether your T thinks you're boring, but more with whether you yourself think you're boring?What kinds of things would you like to do? What hobbies would you like to take up? What places would you like to visit? What would make your life more colorful, more vivid, more worth living?
I'd print your post (worried about boring your T) and bring it to your next session. Ask the T to help you brainstorm on ways to add zest and pizzaz and happiness to life.
I went through a rought patch myself where I thought I was boring and awful and a waste of energy. Meds helped me (thanks, Lexapro!). I also decided to do one interesting thing each week, whether I wanted to or not. Examples were: checking out the new downtown library, going to an art exhibit, getting coffee at a place that is reputed to be the "cool person" hangout, trying to ride a Segway Scooter at the store (Brookstone at the mall will let you try it if you sign a paper & take a quick intro lesson!) I forced myself to do these things, and they often turned into fun stories to share with friends. At least it was something new to see.
I'm sure you're NOT boring to talk to. Give yourself more credit. And ask the T about your concerns...you'll prob. open up a huge can of worms of things that need discussion.
Good luck and take care. And try out that Segway. It's really fun!
JenStar
> I'm not the most exiting person to talk to. Nothing really happens between sessions, and I just seem to turn up, say everything is 'ok' or the same as normal and off I go again.
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> I've been going for nearly 2 years now - usually at the place I go they do short therapy where people are offered a maximum of 5 sessions, but I still seem to be going. She must be bored out of her brains by now. I can't tell whether she keeps encouraging me to keep going to therapy because I am suicidal much of the time (and she doesn't want the responisbility of terminating) or whether she actually thinks that more therapy will help. Maybe I should ask.
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> Maybe I should try to be more animated and more 'exiting' to work with, but I don't really have the energy when it takes up most of my energy to be 'normally' sociable at the moment.
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