Posted by partlycloudy on July 27, 2004, at 13:26:45
In reply to Scared to be honest about something with T, posted by Racer on July 27, 2004, at 12:35:56
I think being truly honest with this T who seems to be promising after just a few sessions, will not hurt you in their eyes. I have honesty issues with my T as well, and I'm painfully aware that being that way cripples the value of the therapy. If I can't be completely honest, then the T isn't getting the whole story, so the therapy will be missing a critical piece of the puzzle.
I live with enough shame every day not to torture myself with keeping back from my T. For me too, it isn't only about trust, but about how valuable the therapy is. It's my life that potentially hangs in the balance, so ultimately it's in my best interest, no matter how painfully difficult or shameful, to be honest with my T.
For me, writing things down has helped me defuse some of the shame and alienation. Sometimes I can't bring myself to read it aloud, but just hand it over like I'm waiting for a grade to be passed back.
And many times, I'll have all the intentions of bringing up painfully honest items but find myself incapable of blurting it out at all. In those cases I talk-dance around the subject and leave wishing my T was a mind reader instead of a human being.
Maybe close your eyes? Maybe ask if you can leave the room to go potty? Whatever you can do to make the process less tortuous will help.
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