Posted by antigua on June 6, 2004, at 12:38:00
In reply to Negative transference/anger at therapist, posted by LG04 on June 6, 2004, at 11:53:38
Yes, I've definitely been in your situation before. IMO, it's all part of the process and I think it will help if you share every bit of it w/her. Does any of this have to do with your leaving? As in pushing her away because you are leaving? You do want to be able to trust her absolutely, but given what you may have grown up with you may not be able to do that, and that may be making you angry.
I got into a situation w/my T where I thought she had betrayed me last summer and spoken behind my back to another T. I was really angry and I almost lost my cool when I told her. She was surprised at the depth of my anger, but we worked through it. It was definitely a trigger from my past more than it was being angry at her. I loaded my anger toward her w/every bit of anger I had as a child that I never expressed.
And, yes, my T is absolutely great, I now trust her absoutely, but it doesn't mean that she doesn't annoy me sometimes.
best,
antigua
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