Posted by crushedout on January 6, 2004, at 20:51:15
In reply to Re: she said no so she passed the test » crushedout, posted by DaisyM on January 6, 2004, at 19:21:16
Actually, you make an excellent point, Daisy. I hadn't thought of that.In her defense, though, she said in the first conversation that it would be difficult for her to see me tomorrow but that if I "needed" to see her, she could make it happen, and when I called her back, I said "I would really like to," but that it could also wait and I didn't want to put her out. So, I intentionally gave her an out. Which makes it less shifty, right?
I guess the part that's not so great is the "it's difficult but if you need me I'll make it happen." She should either be available or not. Hm? I dunno. I'm confused. What's she doing to me? What's going on here?
> I'm glad you are OK with the No. I have to say though, in reading your posts, that the back and forth stuff *isn't* really holding the boundaries because they keep shifting. I realize that I am slow to trust and to ask for help but, if I had even a hint that I was making it difficult for my Therapist, I would shut down. And have.
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> That said, it sounds like you are aware of what you are doing and feel therapy is helping. This is really great. And, maybe she just got full between the time she said she could and the time you called back.
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> Hang in there. I know you are going through a rough time.
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