Posted by Still Hurting on January 4, 2004, at 3:48:06
In reply to Re: OK, what do you all think of this??? » Elle2021, posted by crushedout on December 30, 2003, at 23:34:52
Wow crushedout,
please tell me you are imagining all this? I remember telling my therapist that when sessions were all about our relationship and not about my issues, that's when I knew we were in trouble.And boy, you sound as if you are swimming with the whales. You are in deep crap.
Truthfully, what was going through your therapist's mind to give you a cd with love lyrics on it? Secondly, why would she tell you that she finds you attractive. Those two actions played into your transference.
See there's nothing wrong with transference, but the one in authority has to be strong. Obviously for whatever reason she is not strong.
Straight up ask her if she feels strong enough to deal with your transference. If she doesn't then let her go. If she does, then both of you refirm your boundaries.
I loved my therapist too. Yet my love for her didn't want to see her lose her job. And this drama sounds as though it's heading in that direction.
I wanted to kiss her, hold her, etc. But she had to be strong when I wasn't. Your's isn't.
Crossing professional boundaries happens all the time. Just don't embarrass her if she is weak.It is time you guys really talk. Talk while you can. There may come a time when talking is out and you appear for therapy and she's eradicated you as her client. Then you would really be hurt. Talk now!!
I know you want her to love you. But unfortunately as clients we can't have both. See what she wants. Then go from there.
Unfortunately boundaries in your therapeutic relationship seem so far broken that I don't know if you can ever repair them and remain her client.
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