Posted by bronte19 on August 27, 2004, at 11:58:10
In reply to Re: Introducing myself, posted by westin on August 23, 2004, at 18:03:09
Westin,
Thanks for your support. It helps me a lot to know how a spouse of someone with "mental illness" deals with things. My husband could use some support, too, I think.
Wow! 6 children! I'm impressed. I have all I can handle--and little bit more with one. However, he is the best part of my life right now--his humor makes my day. Yesterday, his preschool teacher told me that a girl asked him to dance during music time. My son's reply was, "I'll dance with you, but I won't marry you." The girl's response, "I didn't ask you to marry me! I just want to dance." Already they are assuming gender roles at age 4.
I do know what you mean about your wife feeling judged--and judging others. I am guilty of the same thing, although I'm told that my standards for myself are still far higher than those I have for other people. I have been accused by family and friends of being Little Miss Perfect. Seeking perfection has been the only way I felt like I could control my life--and my emotions. Little did I know that my emotions were related to assults on the order I thought I could create and control.
I know I've lost closeness with friends and my siblings due to the judging that I do (although I do try to hide it--but I'm not a good liar). Life is chaotic and people are messy--literally and figuratively; I'm trying very hard to cope with that, and I think that medicine is helping some (up to 100 mg of Lamictal, pdoc appt. in 5 days).
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