Posted by brighteyes on September 6, 2006, at 22:55:19
In reply to friend dying, posted by Shortelise on September 2, 2006, at 13:00:39
i watched as my older sister struggled through first luekemia and then 4 years later, a brain tumour that ended her life. funny how people mentioned massages because one of the greatest times i spent with her was right before bed. i would go into her room to say goodnight and maybe if i was lucky i could sit down and talk to her and rub lotion on her feet.
i can relate to changes in appearance, my sister was on steroids that puffed up her face and body. i look at pictures of her before the tumour was diagnosed and she looks like two different people. but i guaruntee that within minutes of talking with her all things physical will cease to matter - and you'll see your friend for her personality, grace, and strength. not for her lack of hair or frailty. it is hard. and i found it scary - seeing my older sister at the mercy of chemotherapy. but my sisters death was blessed with the fact that she was at home, in her oown bed, surrounded by her family and friends. and like a previous post mentioned, the fact that you have the gift of time (no matter how short) is an amazing thing. dont be scared to talk about her death. perhaps she will have her own insights that will give you some peace after she passes away. i hope your visit is a gift and an experience that you will treasure forever in your friend's memory.
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