Posted by sleepygirl on January 1, 2006, at 23:43:50
In reply to this doesn't belong here, but....(**grief trigger*, posted by 10derHeart on January 1, 2006, at 18:14:16
I am so sorry 10der for your loss. It is never easy to lose someone even if they have lived a long life as your dad did.
I imagine it was painful for you to know that he was depressed. Many people in their last years suffer in such ways and don't we wish we could save them from it. The mind and body are absolutely inseparable, and sometimes they follow the surrender of the other.I suppose many feelings at this time are going on for you, and it will take some time to sort them out (and so you just try to do the "adult" things necessary, in "executive mode" as you say).
I sort of think of the funeral and associated gatherings as the things you "do" to contain the "feelings"-but the doing and the feelings can feel oddly disconnected when things are fresh, and the reality hard to come to terms with.
Again, I'm sorry for your loss. Take it easy on yourself.
-all the best,
sleepygirl
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