Posted by gardenergirl on March 21, 2005, at 0:41:33
In reply to Re: My dad » All Done, posted by TofuEmmy on March 20, 2005, at 14:06:19
Oh Laurie,
I'm crying here, too. Although it started when I read the above thread. And I think it's PMS, cause I also cryed when they graduated at the end of Legally Blonde. Not to take anything away from these tears, D'oh! But I'm a cryer.Anyway, I have had some similar feelings when I talk to my younger cousins who never knew our grandpa. I was nine when he died. I remember him teaching us about science stuff and flying kites with him. And we always get out the slides my aunt has of all his photography. If you ever want to see a late 60's early 70's fashion show, just let me know. It's a riot. But the young cousins have no memories of these things except from the stories and from watching the slide shows. I remember those pants. And the trip to the air force base. And my cousin throwing up after the helicopter ride.
At any rate, I am so glad you had those brief months. And in some ways, I think that is the nature of grandparenting. Parents get the chance to "do-over" what they may not have been able to do as well when they were in the thick of life with their own kids. And I imagine that is both a blessing and painful for the kid to see.
It's so wonderful that you keep him alive for N. I really know almost nothing about my dad's dad. Apparently I met him once when I was a babe. But no one talks about him much. Heck, he had a whole new family whom I've met, but no one talks much about them, either.
You are a super wonderful and caring mommy.
gg
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