Posted by Dinah on January 19, 2005, at 16:32:04
In reply to Loss...Like a Vapor Trail, posted by jay on January 19, 2005, at 16:18:10
I'm sorry, Jay. There's nothing I can say other than it stinks.
One good thing about *knowing* is that at an ideal, it can give you some really really special time together. After my father figured out how ill he was, he did things he had never done before. Apologized to me when he said something hurtful. Told me he loved me.
My therapist says that people usually die the way they lived. It sounds as if your father lived well. Cherish the time you have together, and make it special.
Don't worry about the child for your father. It's not something to rush. Your best monument to your father will be the man *you* are. I'm doing my darndest to see that things my father cared about are being taken care of the way he'd want it done. It's not easy, but it's my way of honoring him.
poster:Dinah
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