Posted by Shar on September 5, 2004, at 1:22:49
In reply to Suicide, posted by JF on September 5, 2004, at 0:25:17
I'm so very sorry to hear about that. What a terrible shock and crisis that must be for you.
IF you decide it's time to 'feel' (I lost my dad at 14) you could think about the times (each and every time) that meant something special to you. Remember how he looked, what passed between you, how you felt, what you took away from the event.
If you feel you have to be strong for your mom (as did I) then, you could go somewhere alone and do your remembering.
The best way to honor his memory is to hold him in your heart, and then, in a way, he is never really gone. What would you have liked to say to him? What would you want him to know?
This is a hard business, you are so young, it is good you came here. I'm old now, and it took a long time for me to become more peaceable about my dad's death.
Please keep writing.
Shar
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