Posted by Klokka on September 4, 2004, at 15:56:45
In reply to Re: My cat (long, ranty) » Klokka, posted by AuntieMel on August 21, 2004, at 1:53:00
Hi, and thanks for posting. Sorry for the delay; it's been very hard to post lately, though I'm not entirely sure why.
I still might consider calling the vet. It's just hard because he never really acknowledged that I was there, I was kept completely out of this whole affair (except for being fooled into bringing him in) so it feels almost as if he's sided completely with my mother and therefore unsafe to talk to. Then again, I still find myself wanting closure, so it might be helpful. Maybe hearing the details would help a bit. If you're up to posting them, I'd really appreciate that.
I'm not even sure I know how my dad fits into this myself. He may have lied to me that morning about it being a "checkup" or that may really have been what he was told. He insists he didn't know; my mom swears up and down she told him what she was doing. (And it turns out that she didn't even call the vet to see what could be done. I found out that she called him right away to put him down, no questions asked. She didn't even try, not one bit!) He obviously knew when I got back - if he didn't know before, the hysterical sobbing was a pretty big clue - but I don't know about before. He was gentle about it for the first day and then berated me for not acting close with my mom. It doesn't hurt as much, though, because he's always been full of rage and cruel words and I never had any closeness with him like with my mother. He may have played a role in driving my mother to do this, unwittingly, but I don't really know.
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