Posted by jeff g on January 3, 2004, at 5:28:09
In reply to Help, breaking up is tearing me apart!, posted by shauna on December 25, 2003, at 21:03:30
that really sucks.. I have been going through a horrible breakup myself.. my posts are a bit up on the list. its been 4 months almost since I broke up with my girl of 2 years and I'm still really hurting over it. I strung myself along for a long time with hope, thinking there must be something I can do or say to make her love me again like she once did. I have basically given up hope now, and letting go of the last hope has been like breaking up all over again. I had to call into work tonight and spent hours crying on my bathroom floor. I pretty much feel like advice that people give us in these situations doesn't help that much. Nothing can make you feel better except time and distance from the person it seems. No amount of logical reasoning or hopeful thinking really changes your shattered heart. I personally have learned SO much about life and love through my last relationship and the breakup. I know this knowledge will help me if I ever am in love again, so that is the one positive I take from it. But yeah it is basically like a death and I understand your hurt, knowing this person you cherish and opened yourself up to is basically gone forever is a horrible realization. In my case, I had to watch this woman who swore we were soul mates and going to be together forever move on and start a new relationship only weeks after our breakup. I've tried to stay friends with her but its too painful seeing her have no desire to try again with me or reconcile, and being happy in her new thing. I would recommend cutting off all contact with the guy, it really sounds to me like its not going to work out for you two. Maybe some day you can talk again or be friends but for now you need to heal and that means not exposing yourself to what is causing you so much hurt.
poster:jeff g
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