Posted by Searchlight on October 12, 2003, at 22:58:11
In reply to Re: Divorce can cause terrible grief, posted by PHV on October 12, 2003, at 15:44:03
Hi Patty!
Thank you for the heart-warming and kind post. I am glad you have someone special who values you and let's you be you. I believe two people can have a strong committment and true love with or without a piece of paper. I believe it works for each couple based on a mutual decision for what is right for them. I believe marriage or re-marriage is not for everyone, and that is to be respected. For myself I like the idea of getting married again, but I am also open to the option of a strong monogamous committment with a man provided we talk everything out when it starts to get serious. Also I considered having kids with my second husband (we tried but were unsuccessful in getting pg), but with depression in my family and the fact that my marriage did not work out and I am about to turn 38, I know I probably won't have kids of my own. If I find someone special, I would consider adoption though. But I think being a happy person in yourself is exactly right. You cannot really give to another if you don't love yourself (in a healthy way of course). I have taken the past year as a single gal to reflect and grow and while I miss having a boyfriend, someone special, I guess I will let it happen on it's own without looking too hard for it. That never seems to work.
Enjoy each day and family and friends. Happiness in oneself does seem to attract others.
We'll talk again Patty, you are insightful and thoughtful about other people's feelings.
Thanks, Susan
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