Posted by rayww on October 8, 2003, at 7:04:31
In reply to Has anyone else here lost a child?, posted by Carol F on October 7, 2003, at 16:26:31
I haven't lost a daughter, but my daughter lost her best friend in a car accident when she was 14. I have struggled with father loss. He died when I was 18, leaving my handicapped mother to care for 5 children, or I should say, leaving 5 children to care for their mother. It is very difficult but there is help.
Treat your disorder first. In bipolar we experience life in the outer limit arena; we feel more, we experience more because of the depth of feeling we are able to reach. At some point we need to acknowledge this as a gift, and focus on using it that way. Each phase can teach us something. Learn to recognize the different phases of manic depression (bipolar disorder). Think of them as swings. I have many different swings in my back yard. Some are tall and pretty, others are wide and out of proportion, but I can enjoy them all. If you fear medication, try nutritional supplements first, like calcium magnesium, fish oils, herbal teas, and other things you read about here. If you would like to try a more aggressive nutritional supplement, the one that has given me the most immediate long term help is Empower Plus from http://truehope.com
It is important to realize your daughter lives on in spirit, and can hover near. Develop a more acute awareness of your surroundings. This is easy for bipolars because they can see deeper into things. Notice similarities to her love, her sense of humor, her kindness, her strength. You may see something in a sun set, a flower, a butterfly, or a storm that connects you to her spirit. Don't fear the god breezes. Look up.
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