Posted by Dena on September 15, 2003, at 16:46:59
In reply to Re: Grief, Sadness, loss or just depression?, posted by rayww on September 15, 2003, at 9:58:26
Dear Kay -
I agree with my friend, Raywww, that the consolation you're looking for can be found in God. You can just call out to Him, out loud even, & ask Him for mercy & comfort. Reading the Psalms, which deal with raw human emotion, have always helped me to "prime the pump" when I want to pour out my heart to God, but feel stuck.
I still have the blessing of both of my parents, but I have lost other loved ones. However, I've been told & believe that parents are especially signigicant to lose. It makes sense, I mean we first viewed the world through their eyes. Our mothers carried us under their hearts for nine months (& then in their arms for many more). Our fathers were (or were supposed to be) our protectors from all harm, our providers, or earthly image of our Heavenly Father. They helped form us into who we are, for good or for bad. Their influence over us can't ever be measured.
To say how much you miss them is a wonderful tribute to how much you love them, & how much they loved you. They must have given you so many blessings for you to so treasure their memory. I hope that you do have faith in God & in heaven. I don't know how someone can grieve without the firm belief that their loved ones are safe in a better place, & that they'll be together one day. If this is true for you, then you can hold onto the thought that you're only separated from them for a short time (compared to eternity).
To be still grieving so strongly after all this time, I might want to seek some counseling to discover if perhaps there is something causing you to hold on to the pain. Is there something else behind it? Fear? Anger? Abandonment? Resentment? When we grieve deeply & thoroughly, it can be surprisingly quick. I'm not meaning to judge your grief, I'd just want to be sure it wasn't camoflauging something else that might need some resolution. I wish you peace.
I hope you can find some comfort in these thoughts...
Shalom, Dena
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