Posted by Dinah on July 13, 2006, at 0:09:07
In reply to Re: Is self esteem different than self worth? » curtm, posted by Racer on July 12, 2006, at 23:13:30
But none of those are things that would bring shame. You're going to school and getting a degree. That brings no shame. You have an illness and have had your share of troubles. That doesn't tarnish your honor.
You do your best to be kind to others. That is honorable indeed.
I won't comment on the laziness, because I intellectually know that I'm not lazy, but I struggle with shame over my behavior that might be seen as lazy nonetheless. :(
Would you consider any of those things shameful in others? Would you judge them negatively for it?
I hate myself sometimes for allowing myself to gain weight. Yet someone in my life is also overweight, and when I see it I just am sorry because I know that when he gains weight it's because he's unhappy, and I'm sorry he's unhappy.
Maybe there should be a rule that says we should judge ourselves by the same measure that we judge others.
Wait. That sounds familiar. It leads to a whole new reading of that familiar saying doesn't it?
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